Because of societal stereotypes about men, they often see opening up negatively.
Relationship negativity can also stem from (or be reinforced by) experiencing various awful dating episodes.
But here is one quick tip applicable almost to any situation where your opinions and desires differ: Try an approach of ‘If you do this for me, I’ll do that for you’. This defense is what is stopping both of you from achieving real intimacy. How well do you know his parents and/or elder siblings?
For example, if he doesn’t take his eyes of his phone when you are sharing a big mistake or an achievement of your lifetime with him, request that he alters or eliminates this annoying behavior and, as a thank you, you’ll be willing to change one of your own that . Men are socialized to be powerful, strong, even inaccessible.
The more or less positive lesson here is that: You might not be the only one hurting in your relationship.